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Guiding Light through the rough seas of life

What is your guiding light to help you through the rough seas of life?

It’s fascinating exploring old lighthouses along the eastern seaboard. From Maine to Florida, there is a rich history of lighthouses and their impact on commercial navigation. To see where they were constructed, how they were constructed, why they were constructed and then how they were actually built. There definitely was a reason to have these lighthouses to guide merchant ships. Captains put their trust in these lighthouses to keep their ships safely in the proper lanes, especially during violent storms.

Is there a beacon you can focus on to help you get safely to port? We can cruise along and do just fine and then we have a change in our live, like leaving the corporate world, changing our career, selling our business or reaching age 65. We move out of that comfort zone where we have been cruising on the high seas and maintaining our lifestyles, our social circles and activities. Suddenly the waters get rough, we are thrown into some big bouncing waves. Where is our lighthouse? That beacon of light to keep us from crashing into the shoals instead of reaching our potential.

When we look for a lighthouse there are several different pathways we can take to get there. I’m going to keep it simple and focus on just two in this blog. There are a couple of science pieces of information we need to focus on first.

How The Brain Works

One key piece of information is understanding how the brain works and the impact on how it works affects us. There are two key emotional thoughts that can control our actions. One of the primal and prominent emotional thoughts is fear. That dreaded four letter word that can keep us up at night. This primitive thought is responsible for keeping early ancestors alive. Fear triggers our flee or fight syndrome we have all heard about and experienced. We will find ourselves doing all sorts strange things when this flee or fight syndrome kicks in.

An interesting aspect about this fear syndrome is that our brains will respond to fear whether it is a real fear or a perceived fear. Our brains can’t tell the difference. Where this comes into play is when we are considering what to do with our lives after age 65. There may be actions we are investigating in regards to what we want to do in our golden years. We may be thinking about starting a new career, studying something we find interesting or starting anew business. There are lots of options. If we doubt ourselves, fear will creep in and we may freeze, never getting any closer to our chosen goals.

Here is the second fascinating thing about our brain. Our brain can’t hold fear and gratitude together at the same time. The good news is that gratitude is stronger emotional thought than fear. If we focus on what we are grateful for, we remove the emotionally charged thought of fear and we can move forward in the direction we want to journey. Gratitude becomes a guiding light to help you through the rough seas of life.

Passion

The second pathway to help us find our guiding light lighthouse is discovering what our truth passion may be.
You know you are getting close to your true passion because is it that item or action you would love to do even if you didn’t get paid. Almost everyone has a passion whether they realize it or not. Often, we put filters on it because we don’t know how to make a living doing it, other people talk us out of it or we don’t know how to get started. We do recognize when we are doing our passionate best because it feels so good and we can’t differentiate between work and play. The key is the sense of purpose we get from understanding why we are passionate about certain things. This provides a lighthouse for us as we move through our own stormy waters.

For further reading check out Maurie Backman’s article about the 1 retirement danger no one warns you about. She provides some good insight.

The 1 Retirement Danger No One Warns You About

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Baby Boomer Adventures!

Be Your Best on Your Next Journey!
Baby boomer adventures, that conjures up a lot of images doesn’t it? As baby boomers do you remember when we were kids and our adventures? We looked at life as one big adventure and we were in awe of the world around us.  Slowly, as we get older and gain more experience that sense of awe seems to decrease along the way. We go to school, study and participate in different activities. We are still in awe of what we are learning and doing.

Then we start dating and that is another adventure that causes us to be in awe. We start a new career and we are in awe of the scope of responsibility we have or don’t have. Each promotion is a new adventure in scope and scale of what we do. Then later, we get married and we are definitely in awe again with this adventure. We have children and we are in awe of these small bundles. And before you know it our children are grown and we are looking at this phase called retirement. We are in awe of how fast the time has gone! Now we start to plan for our baby boomer adventures.

Baby Boomers

Baby boomers are turning age 65 every 7 seconds every single day. This will continue for about the next decade. That is a lot of people who are potentially coming to the end of a career. Or are they? Surveys show the majority of baby boomers want to continue being active. Whether they are working full or part time. Half of that group would like to do something different than what they’ve done in the past. Yet only 19% have done anything different thus far. Maybe it’s the way we perceive retirement.
If you’ve retired recently, think back about your life at work. At work you had an identity and were a contributor. You were respected and people needed you.  A social network was available and you provided value.  Feedback and advice were exchanged along with praise and criticism. You were part of something larger than you. Now think about what provides that feeling of purpose in your new phase of life. The place to look is within, whether it is adjusting your lifestyle or adjusting to a new career.
You know that the financial part of retirement planning is key. Do you know what one of the key problems financial planners have with their clients? Getting the answer to this key question: “What do you plan on doing in retirement?” For a financial planner, the answers provide a lot different planning scenario for various couples or individuals. Those who want to travel internationally once a year could be one scenario. Compare that to couples who want to move to a senior living community to be close to grand-kids. If clients can figure out what they want to do in retirement, what type of journey they want to embark on, it sure makes a financial planner’s job a lot less frustrating.

Planning for the Journey
We’ll cover planning for the journey. We’ll also explore some of the some of the problems other than financial that baby boomers may encounter. Discussions on personal leadership and emotional intelligence will be key. Focus will also be on losing your identity and trying to figure out a new lifestyle. Emotional issues will be covered such as the onset of depression, fear, and default behaviors. Even the challenges of both spouses or partners being at home together for the first time. Sometimes this can result in arguing and dealing with old habits. We are going to try and make these topics fun and interactive while we learn and continue to grow.

We will explore how to be your best on your next journey. This will be done by showing you how to find your passion, pick your adventure and ignite your activity. Overcoming default behaviors and creating new habits will also be covered because they are key to igniting your new activities. Hopefully a good portion of all that we cover will be a new productive learning experience. As we learn, we will be putting this information into action and new adventures to help you with you journey.

Adventure Jerky-Fuel for the Journey is all about providing fuel for your journey. The fuel can be physical fuel such as jerky. Or the fuel can be mental fuel in regards to sharing ideas & thoughts with books, blogs and literature. We want to get you in the mood to successfully re-purpose your new lifestyle and/or a new career. Providing for a successful journey. Come on along and we’ll show you how to create some fun adventures. They can be a large adventure or a series of smaller adventures.
We would also like to hear from you and have you share your adventures in the blog contest.

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Learning to Walk

You’ve always been told, “You must learn to walk before you can run.”

I’m a living example of opposite is a real possibility. This is only passed by my parents and grandparents to me since, I was only nine months old then.

As the story goes; I would always launch from the same place on a particular corner of the couch. I would pull myself up and let go and run landing with a thump. Always on my tippy-toes; tap, tap tap, splat. Then I would crawl back to the original starting position to go again.

Over the next few days I would run from living room to the hallway to the kitchen. Finally I made it to the back door which led to the porch and the yard.

Finally, I cleared the kitchen and got to the screen door. No stopping me now. One problem it was an elevated porch and I apparently had no concept of steps. The result was the biggest splat yet. After mom dried my tears she latched the screen door to prevent a repeat performance. Now, I would run into the door then stand there slapping the screen and cry because it wouldn’t open.

So my mom walked me through the concept of steps and as all nine month olds must do, I learned to crawl backwards off the steps (since they where at least 1/2 my body height).

Lesson learned. I’ve got this. I have to maneuver different on these confounded steps.

It must be mentioned we lived way out in the country on a caliche hill in Northwest Oklahoma. We also had a dog which was, of course, my best friend. He was a Collie mix and my mom is no longer with us to remind me of his name. However, I ran with him everywhere he wanted to go.

On one day before the age of one he decided to take me on my first big ‘venture. I would run in the field by the house with him anywhere he went. I wasn’t much taller that the sage brush. So, my Mom called me her little “fluff head”, since that was all she could see bouncing through the sage brush. Well, one day I disappeared in the pasture and the dog returned home, without me.

This caused a rather large commotion. My father and grandfather set to horseback to search in the fields. My mom set to the road and drove along slowly looking for me. Well, mom found me, not far from the house. I had attempted to crawl through a barbed wire fence getting hung up by my diaper.

I guess the dog got tired of waiting on me and just went home. But, in my romantic idealistic mind it was a “Lassie” situation, I like to believe he went home to get “Timmy” help.

My path, as all our paths have, has been fraught with difficulty and challenges. As age has set in I have been enlightened to the fact that I’m still learning to slow down and walk!