What is your guiding light to help you through the rough seas of life?
It’s fascinating exploring old lighthouses along the eastern seaboard. From Maine to Florida, there is a rich history of lighthouses and their impact on commercial navigation. To see where they were constructed, how they were constructed, why they were constructed and then how they were actually built. There definitely was a reason to have these lighthouses to guide merchant ships. Captains put their trust in these lighthouses to keep their ships safely in the proper lanes, especially during violent storms.
Is there a beacon you can focus on to help you get safely to port? We can cruise along and do just fine and then we have a change in our live, like leaving the corporate world, changing our career, selling our business or reaching age 65. We move out of that comfort zone where we have been cruising on the high seas and maintaining our lifestyles, our social circles and activities. Suddenly the waters get rough, we are thrown into some big bouncing waves. Where is our lighthouse? That beacon of light to keep us from crashing into the shoals instead of reaching our potential.
When we look for a lighthouse there are several different pathways we can take to get there. I’m going to keep it simple and focus on just two in this blog. There are a couple of science pieces of information we need to focus on first.
How The Brain Works
One key piece of information is understanding how the brain works and the impact on how it works affects us. There are two key emotional thoughts that can control our actions. One of the primal and prominent emotional thoughts is fear. That dreaded four letter word that can keep us up at night. This primitive thought is responsible for keeping early ancestors alive. Fear triggers our flee or fight syndrome we have all heard about and experienced. We will find ourselves doing all sorts strange things when this flee or fight syndrome kicks in.
An interesting aspect about this fear syndrome is that our brains will respond to fear whether it is a real fear or a perceived fear. Our brains can’t tell the difference. Where this comes into play is when we are considering what to do with our lives after age 65. There may be actions we are investigating in regards to what we want to do in our golden years. We may be thinking about starting a new career, studying something we find interesting or starting anew business. There are lots of options. If we doubt ourselves, fear will creep in and we may freeze, never getting any closer to our chosen goals.
Here is the second fascinating thing about our brain. Our brain can’t hold fear and gratitude together at the same time. The good news is that gratitude is stronger emotional thought than fear. If we focus on what we are grateful for, we remove the emotionally charged thought of fear and we can move forward in the direction we want to journey. Gratitude becomes a guiding light to help you through the rough seas of life.
The second pathway to help us find our guiding light lighthouse is discovering what our truth passion may be.
You know you are getting close to your true passion because is it that item or action you would love to do even if you didn’t get paid. Almost everyone has a passion whether they realize it or not. Often, we put filters on it because we don’t know how to make a living doing it, other people talk us out of it or we don’t know how to get started. We do recognize when we are doing our passionate best because it feels so good and we can’t differentiate between work and play. The key is the sense of purpose we get from understanding why we are passionate about certain things. This provides a lighthouse for us as we move through our own stormy waters.
For further reading check out Maurie Backman’s article about the 1 retirement danger no one warns you about. She provides some good insight.